I have run across this a few times in life, in my own dealings and observing other people, but why do we punish ourselves by keeping people in our lives that treat us badly. I have been guilty of it myself, both as the bad friend and the keeper of the bad friend. In the latter role, I have found myself making excuses for people and justifying their behavior when I really shouldn't do so.
Even if someone has good times with you sometimes, if the majority of the time they put you down, treat you or your loved ones like crap, or use you, are they worth keeping around? What if you have known them forever?? Is that a factor to be taken into consideration?
Honestly, I don't know the answer to this because I understand both sides so well.
I think the line for me is when they start treating my loved ones bad for no reason.
Maybe I just have high standards in friends and take friendship really seriously. I used to give up a lot for my friends but I realize that most people will/can't do for me what I have done for them so I have learned to stop doing that. Ok, not stop completely, as I am still fiercely loyal and protective over the ones I love. Sometimes I feel like the people I protect don't protect me the same way. I don't know if they don't feel I need it because I'm strong or what, but I am just like them---human, vulnerable and sensitive. I can't take it all, all the time. Sometimes I need protection too.
I just know that like with my previous post, sometimes friendships might need to die a natural death and if two people have grown apart to where they don't treat each other well the majority of the time, then are they worth it to keep it around?
I guess we all have our excuses to keep unhealthy relationships going. I hope in the future I can identify negative relationships when they start and cut them off before they do lasting damage. And I hope that for you too.
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